Comments on: The Bar

By: whatigotsofar

whatigotsofar — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 19:26:27 +0000

modobs - I don’t think I’d be frightened by an agressive woman. I’d be surprised.

Random - psychos have their upside.

By: Random Chick

Random Chick — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 19:06:12 +0000

(ahem) “Wacky little gremlins on the airplane of life..”??

If you want to meet and engage with those “little gremlins” a bar, in my opinion, is not the best place to do it. Most women in a bar are not looking for a lasting relationship (I never was), if they are, they are not the kind of woman any normal guy would want because they are usually psychos (sorry if I offended any psycho chicks out there who try to meet men in bars).

Here’s a tip: How do you meet new guy friends (taking sex out completely of the equation)? Do you find something you have in common and start talking? Do you suggest that you go do something you both like to do or just hang out? How do those relationships usually begin for you? Whatever you do there…do the same thing when trying to meet a quality woman you want to be with because that’s the beginning of a good relationship. Not one that starts in bar, under the influence of alcohol, loud music, and dim light. I’m just saying….

On a side note: When I was single, I would NEVER wait for a guy to approach me whether, I was in bar or anywhere else…I would always approach them. EVERY guy I’ve ever been with, including my husband, I made the first move.

By: modobs

modobs — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 16:21:02 +0000

Geez, one of my female friends complains about the same problem as yours as she’s the one who makes the first moves and men are frightened by her move. This says that you shouldn’t consider looking to hook up in a bar…

By: whatigotsofar

whatigotsofar — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 13:51:22 +0000

Ladies, when you go to a bar and look all hot, you have to expect that guys are going to try to pick you up. “Boo hoo, I’m a woman and every man wants to have sex with me.”

Angel - I’d rather just keep giving this stuff away on the house. I’m trying to make the world a better place.

By: Grace

Grace — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 06:01:37 +0000

I feel horrible for guys… I always think about how difficult it must be. I would never be able to do it. Ever!

I won’t lie, I’ve given out fake numbers before. I do it because I feel horrible saying no to a guy’s face. Especially when he asks me for it in front of his friends or my friends. I don’t like publicly humiliating people. Obviously, my friends always know I’m lying and the giggling probably gives it away, but at least I feel like I’ve done my part in trying not to embarrass him.

By: Rawbean

Rawbean — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 05:55:37 +0000

I also think that bars are not the place for people to pick eachother up. Anyone I’ve ever met at a bar has never become someone I have known for more than 24 hours (does that make sense). In fact, on the rare occasion that I do get hit on at a bar, I am totally suspicious because I think that the guy doesn’t actually take me that seriously. Only one time did I meet someone at a bar and they later tracked me down using the little information they knew about me - THAT was totally cool. Of course it didn’t work out, but so cool none the less.

And finally, I totally agree with you that honesty is the best policy. If I know someone doesn’t like me I can walk away and make a clean break instead of letting them jerk me around for god knows how long.

By: Maxie

Maxie — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 21:48:45 +0000

I understand what you’re saying, but I think a guy should be able to get the “vibe” from a girl who doesn’t really wanna hang out. Like if I’m out with a bunch of my friends, even if a cute guy came up to say hello I might blow him off just because that’s not what I was there for.

But I am glad I’m not a guy. I couldn’t deal with it. I’d be single forever.

By: angelcjr

angelcjr — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 17:30:19 +0000

This is a good series and should be turned into a book or maybe a reality show with you as the host!

By: wiwille

wiwille — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 17:13:51 +0000

I never go to bars with the intent of meeting women. I’d just rather drink and hang. It’s easier meeting women at parties or such. Regardless I don’t think women hold all that much power really. In my experience after the first couple rejections it doesn’t phase me anymore.

By: Sparkling Red

Sparkling Red — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 16:53:44 +0000

I will not lie. I can tell when a man’s got that look in his eye, and I will use it to my advantage. (Though not a mean way.) I’m not single, so I don’t deal in pick-up situations, but it sure does smooth the road at work, and other settings.
It’s not going to last forever, so I’m going to enjoy it while it does!